Our Programs

Introductory Courses

(Typically 90 minutes)

“Oh no, not again!” – Managing Relationship Conflict

Conflict

Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments; they’ve had the same argument hundreds of times” – Gay Hendricks. Decades of research proves that how you fight is more important than if you fight. Conflict is almost unavoidable in every relationship. What can be avoided is letting it damage your relationship. This course will help you learn key conflict management skills. When you’re done, you’ll understand the real roots of conflict. You’ll have some tools you can use when conflict arises. Finally, you’ll be better able to avoid needless conflict. (No prerequisite courses)

“That’s NOT what I said!” – Communication in Relationships

Communication - NOT!

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw.  An Internet search for “we just can’t communicate” gives over 350,000 hits. Relationship counselors say that “communication issues” are among the most common concerns they hear. In most cases, though, it’s not simple communication that’s the real issue. It’s the way communication takes place, and the way messages are received.  Affirmative Intimacy™ will give you the skills you need to address these issues in a productive and effective way. (No prerequisite courses)

“Not tonight, dear…” – Desire, Intimacy and Sexuality in Relationships

Not tonight, dear...Forget the simplistic stuff like “make a date” and “spice it up.” These are band aids. You need to look hard at why this is an issue and how long it’s been an issue. Only then can you dig out root causes to work on. During the course, you’ll learn some approaches that don’t work, and some that do. We’ll try to help you understand the common “whys” of desire discrepancies. Finally, we’ll touch on some topics that may be getting in the way of a fulfilling sexual relationship and how they can be addressed. You may need to reframe your views around sexuality and intimacy, but it will definitely be worth it! (No prerequisite courses)

“You just don’t care!” – Emotionally Unbalanced Relationships

What’s missing in your relationship? What do you want that you’re not getting? Why do "You just don't care"you want it? Is it there, but you’re missing it because your “love languages” are different? How much are you looking to your partner to provide what you should be giving yourself? How have you communicated about this up to now – or have you? Important questions! This workshop will help you identify key “sticking points” in your relationship where you and your partner are not on the same page emotionally. When you’ve completed this workshop, you’ll be able to list these key areas and understand how they can be addressed. (No prerequisite courses)

“Just what do you think YOU’RE doing?” – Unhealthy Jealousy, Insecurity and Control in Relationships

Frequently in relationships, we find ourselves too intertwined. We develop a sense of entitlement concernControlling partnering our partner. We lose sight of their individuality and personhood. From this often springs an unhealthy desire to own and control them. When we are constantly afraid of “losing” something we believe we’re entitled to own, we will spare no effort to keep it or get it back. We often don’t care who gets harmed in the process. Unfortunately, society encourages this damaging behavior. When you’ve completed this course, you’ll have some new ways of thinking that can help dissolve unhealthy suspicion, insecurity, jealousy and similar poisonous emotions. (No prerequisite courses)

“Why should I trust you?” – Building and Maintaining Trust in Relationships

Trust is essential in every successful relationship. One type of trust – practical trust – is whether you can trust your partner to be forthright and honest Doubting partnerwith you, and to act in your best interests. The other type of trust – relational trust – is whether you believe that your partner is fully present and engaged in the relationship. Many things, real and imagined, can affect your sense of trust. Without implicit trust, nothing works out right. You may feel you have a factual basis for your mistrust, or your trust issues may spring entirely from within. Either way, a trust deficit is a glaring red light that must be addressed immediately. When you’re finished with this course, you’ll have some practical approaches and skills to help uncover the causes of a trust deficit and work through them to achieve a secure and lasting relationship. (No prerequisite courses)